A Perfect Sexual Market

At any given moment, there are hundreds if not thousands, of people willing to have anonymous sex. They have internet access, the ability to do it safely, and the means to transport themselves to a partner and a place to have sex. So why are people lonely?

These people don't meet each other is a big reason. They sit in their apartments or at bars where it's too loud to talk or too weird for strangers to say what they feel.

CL is a big step forward in fixing this problem. Still, many folks don't know that CL exists, and even among those that do, it's not a perfect sexual market. Reading ads or posting an ad does not guarantee or even usually lead to sex. Some problems:

1. An overwhelming imbalance in the number of men seeking women compared to women seeking men.
2. A disproportionate share of unattractive and overweight people, especially in women as there are a large number of muscular and "large" men on CL
   
3. The high number of fake ads and people on the internet pretending to be people they're not
4. The lack of pictures, which not only facilitates #3 but also makes people reluctant to answer ads since they're afraid of treading below their minimum floor of attractiveness.
5. The social stigma of having sex on CL/having someone out there know that you have sex on CL

Eliminating #5 would fix a lot, but the idea of easily found sex would still appeal to men more than women. Given that online dating had a huge stigma years ago but now is considered fairly normal, there's hope that in time CL will have a reduced stigma as well.

But I think CL should charge. It should charge some low fee, like $10/mo, for the privilege to read and post. People could justify paying $10 to read the funny ads and won't have to admit at first that they want to post. This helps get rid of fake posters. Sites that charge, like match.com, have very few fake people. And it allows CL permanently ban fake people (or subject them to fees to the point where it's not profitable for them to be on CL anymore).

Ultimately, I think CL needs some sort of code of honor where what happens there stays secret. Like AA. This will allow more people to post more information on themselves and the more information and people that are out there, the better the sexual market will be.